Baby, It’s Cold Outside Discussions Heated

Baby, It’s Cold Outside… But Discussions Are Getting Heated!   A favorite part of the winter holiday season is hearing the annual sounds of beloved Christmas songs and other holiday melodies. This year, a new sound has emerged: discussions about Baby, It’s Cold Outside and whether it deserves to remain on the holiday playlist. Over the past few weeks, I’ve heard people objecting to the song because it promotes rape culture, sexism, and patriarchy. Others object to the objections by…

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Federal Funding Changes Impact Sex Education

Federal Funding Changes Impact Sex Education Since its inception, the federal government has had an interest in funding the prevention of issues that negatively impact public health. Two of these issues have been teen pregnancy and HIV infection among youth. These two issues are connected to sex education since both are the result of unprotected sexual activity. In addition, evidence-based comprehensive sex education has been proven to result in these outcomes, which lead to lower rates of teen pregnancy and…

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Amaze Parents Interview

Amaze Parents Interview About Consent Amaze Parents asked The Puberty Lady for an interview to talk about ways parents and other trusted adults can talk to their younger children about consent without bringing up the topic of sex. You can watch the interview or read the transcript below.  Christine Koh interviewed Wendy L. Sellers on Facebook Live October 19, 2018. Christine Koh: Hello everyone and welcome to Amaze Live. It’s been a few weeks since we’ve done one of these,…

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Sexual Development in Late Childhood: What to Expect?

Sexual Development in Late Childhood: What to Expect? As the school year starts to become more routine than new, children begin feeling more confident and comfortable in their surroundings. Peer relationships develop, and signs of mild or overt sexual behavior may appear. Children in late childhood – 9 to 12 years old – sometimes begin to hide sexual behavior from their families. At this stage, children have learned that some words and behaviors aren’t socially acceptable or welcomed by their families,…

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Constellation: Sex, Eating Disorders, Substance Use Disorders

Look at the Constellation! Sex, Eating Disorders, and Substance Use Disorders If you want to break multiple taboos, start talking about sex and drugs! Then, toss in the subject of eating disorders for some extra shock value. As a person who has worked as a Certified Prevention Consultant and sex educator for many years, I am used to raising controversial subjects. The most common reactions I get—once people get over the initial shock—is relief and story-telling. People want to talk…

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Healthy Sexual Development for Middle to Late Childhood: What’s Normal?

Healthy Sexual Development for Middle to Late Childhood: What’s Normal? Children are natural researchers, always observing the world around them. As they watch the behaviors of kids their age and the adults in their lives, healthy sexual development happens. Childhood curiosity about gender roles, body parts, and behaviors lead to voluntary exploration between children of similar age, size, and development. In fact, between 40 and 85 percent of children will engage in some form of sexual behavior by age 13.…

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3 Ways to Start the School Year Right

3 Ways to Start the School Year Right   School is right around the corner, and many 9- to 12- year-olds are anxiously preparing to head back for a fresh year of learning and socializing. While some may be excited at the idea of school, other kids may be feeling nervous or unsure. From a parent’s perspective, you may be experiencing the same thing! As school begins, now’s the time to have those important conversations that prepare both you and…

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Ages & Stages of Healthy Childhood Sexual Development

Ages & Stages of Healthy Childhood Sexual Development   How does a parent, caregiver, or educator know what is healthy and normal for children related to sexual behavior? What are normal childhood curiosity-related activities, and what are warning signs of abuse or trauma? What do children need to learn to develop into sexually healthy adults, and at what ages do we teach them? These are some of the questions that caring adults grapple with as they seek to guide children…

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Happy Spring! Alias Dress Code Season Part 3: The Solutions

Dress Code Season Part 3: The Solutions If you’re just tuning in, this is the final blog of a three-part series.  Dress Code Season Part 1 introduced dress codes and explained why more schools are adopting them. Part 2 described several of the problems associated with dress codes, and this blog, Part 3, will identify action-oriented solutions to those problems. It’s easy to list a litany of reasons why school dress codes don’t work for everyone; the challenge is identifying…

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Happy Spring! Alias Dress Code Season, Part 2: Naming the Discriminations

Dress Code Season Part 2: Naming the Discriminations   This is Part 2 of my three-part series on school dress codes. Read Part 1 here. Dress code season is upon us, and what may have been considered normal school rules 10 years ago has become increasingly problematic as dress codes are interpreted and enforced by adults who have their own views of what is okay and what is not. Dress codes that rely on subjective descriptors can be interpreted in as…

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Happy Spring! …Alias Dress Code Season, Part 1

Happy Spring! …Alias Dress Code Season   Ahhh… Spring is finally here! We celebrated the Vernal Equinox on March 20, and the warmer air and increased sunshine that comes with it. However, with the rising temperatures comes the “dress code season.” Perhaps you’re not familiar with the term, but I’m quite sure you are very familiar with these signs that dress code season has arrived: A girl is sent to the school office because her shorts are too short. A…

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Evaluation of Puberty: The Wonder Years Indicates Positive Student Outcomes

Great News! Evaluation of Puberty: The Wonder Years™ Indicates Positive Student Outcomes What Was Evaluated? Between January and April 2017, a large, urban school district participated in an evaluation of their puberty education programming using Puberty: The Wonder Years™. The school district wanted to learn if their puberty education program helped students increase knowledge, develop positive attitudes, and practice the skills needed to navigate puberty in a positive manner. Who Participated? Thirty-two classes of fourth-, fifth-, and sixth-grade students participated in…

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What educators are saying

“My students had lots of questions! They thanked me for being willing to teach them about what is happening to them.”



Mike B., Lansing School District

“Puberty: The Wonder Years doesn’t just stick to puberty. The curriculum also includes lessons on topics that I think are necessary, such as bullying and social-emotional components. There’s also a lot of scripting for really good conversation and prompts for the teachers.”

Tim Kordic, Project Advisor for Sexual Health & HIV Prevention, Los Angeles Unified School District

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Health Educator of the Year

Wendy receives her award from the American School Health Association