While I was working with a group at one of the big ten universities, a grad student shared the story of her 20-year-old roommate Jun, who was also attending the university. Jun’s mother, who lives in China, had never told Jun anything about sex. One night, Jun was drinking alcohol with her then-boyfriend, and he raped her. She was devastated and didn't know what had happened to her. Fortunately, Jun did not get pregnant. The grad student decided that someone had to talk to Jun about how to keep herself safe, so she told her everything she knew about sex and safety.
While shopping recently, a young man named Brian helped me select my purchase. In the course of our conversation, I told him about the work I do. He lit up! Brian told me how important it was that I continue to improve sex education for young people in schools. Then, he shared his own story.
Recently, a teacher named Jennifer told me this story. When Jennifer was three, she woke up early on Christmas morning. Very excited to begin her day, she burst into her parents' bedroom to find her mother on top of her father. Her parents shrieked, “Go out! And shut the door!”
Annie is an intelligent, compassionate person who carefully balances her parenting role with her professional role. Now that her children are in elementary school, Annie realizes she needs to have some "talks" with her son and daughter. This point was driven home when her mother handed her the very same book on puberty that she had given to Annie as a child. Annie’s mother instructed her, "Be sure you share this book with the kids. And when you're done, give it back to me so I can give it to your brother to show his kids next."